We ask "why?" in hard times. There are many things we might not understand, but there are some basic principles that we are given to understand.

    First, and foundational, we need to understand that God is good, the devil is bad. God does not afflict and torment. The devil does.
               "The thief cometh not, but for to steal, to kill, and to destroy:
                I am come that they might have life, and that they might have
                it more abundantly." John 10.10

    Next, we need to understand that we are given responsibility of government in the affairs of life here on earth, including governing our own personal lives. In other words, the choices we make will govern the outcome of our lives. Good choices will bring good results, bad choices will bring bad results.
                "And God said, Let us make man in our own image, after
                our likeness: and let them have dominion..." Genesis 1.26
    Right along with this is the principle of sowing and reaping. What we sow, we reap. This principle affects every realm of life.

    Next, we need to understand that a lack of knowledge is an open door to the destructive power of the elements and of the enemy.
                "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because
                thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that
                thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the
                law of thy God, I will also forget thy children." Hosea 4.6
    This is an Old Testament expression of how ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance of the Word and ways of God robs us of God's blessings.

    Next, we need to understand that God will carry us at length in love, mercy, and in protective power, but there reaches a point when we must grow up and bear some responsibility for our life. He will give us Word and enlightenment repeatedly, covering us, giving us ample time to turn from our ways to conform to His ways. When we refuse to go in His way of abundant life and deliverance, and we choose our own way, walking out of the covering of God, then we walk into the devices of the enemy. God doesn't just "allow" evil to come on us. We make choices that opens the door to that evil. Job had to repent in dust and ashes for some of the attitudes and choices he made before he received deliverance.
    In other words, God feeds us knowledge and expects us to embrace and grow up in that knowledge. If we refuse, He is not responsible for the outcome.
                "God...exalted the people when they dwelt as strangers in
                the land of Egypt, and with an high arm brought he them
                out of it. And about the time of forty years suffered he their
                manners in the wilderness...he...destroyed seven nations...
                gave unto them judges...God gave unto them Saul...removed...
                found David...of this man's seed...raised...a Savior, Jesus"
                                                                                            Acts 13.17-23
    In this scripture we see how God carried and provided for His people right on up to the revelation of Jesus Christ. The term "suffered he their manners" in the Hebrew language, according to the center reference in my Bible, carries the idea of God bearing His people and feeding them as a nurse feeds an infant. The idea is conveyed to us that God provided even more than He really wanted to for His people. He didn't want to give them a king in the person of Saul. He knew that would not be the best thing for them, but He respected their choice. Then, after it did not work out, with the people suffering the consequences of their choice, God gave them king David to deliver them.
    In short, the principle we see here, again, is that if we refuse to grow up, bent on doing our own thing, refusing the knowledge of God, then God is not responsible for the mess we get ourselves into.

    "Why!" we scream, we cry, and we moan. If we will be honest with ourselves, we can go to God's Word and find the answer. We can learn how we have refused God's ways, and have chosen our own ways, and are suffering the consequences of it.
    God's way is the way of faith in the Word of God, walking in love, and being sensitive to be led by the Holy Spirit. It was unbelief that caused the children to walk in lovelessness and die in the wilderness. It was the unbelief of not discerning God's Word regarding health and relationships, that caused the Corinthians to be weak and sickly and die prematurely. Today, the same applies to us. Just because we are doing our own "good thing", does not mean it is the "God thing" by the leading of the Holy Spirit.
                "For that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear
                of the Lord: they would none of my counsel: they despised all
                my reproof. Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own
                way, and be filled with their own devices." Proverbs 1.29-31
    Suffering because we are outside God's will is different from suffering in the will of God. Paul suffered a lot, but he knew exactly why, and he rejoiced in the midst of that suffering.

    The good news for us today is this:
                "But whoso hearkeneth unto me shall dwell safely, and shall
                be quiet from fear of evil." Proverbs 1.33
    If we will turn from our ways, and turn to Jesus for abundant life--for forgiveness, for healing, for restoration, and for eternal life--then our "whys" can be turned to "wonderfuls", as we see the wonders of God's love and compassion  deliver us from the tight clutches of the enemy, who is hell-bent on destroying us.
    We have the choice and responsibility to learn the truth of God's ways and line our lives us to His provisions for deliverance and abundant life. We do this through knowledge of and faith in the Word of God. This is believing on Jesus Christ.
    If we really want to know "Why?", we can turn to Jesus, the Living Word, with all our life, and walk in the ways of God, and understand, and dwell safely, and be quiet from fear of evil.