He which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Matthew 19:6
With a new chapter of my life opening after the passing of my late wife Becky on January 12, 2015, I sought God for his direction. The caregiver chapter with her lengthy illness was closed. Now, my desire was to get my life back to a focus on ministry. I spoke with the Lord saying: “Lord, if I am to remain single the rest of my days, fine. I know you give grace for that. But Lord, if you know I need a companion, here is my list of what I desire (I made a list of things I desired in a companion), and let’s get it on quickly. I don’t want to have to spend a lot of time searching, dating, and all that stuff.” I laid the list and the request out before him and went about the business of making contacts with different pastors and churches in an effort to establish relationships for support of future gospel outreach and mission work.
In this process of making contacts with pastors in the local region, on May 5, 2015, I met Barbara Allred, Pastor of The Lighthouse Church in Benton, AR. I shared my vision with her and we became acquainted. In subsequent meetings God worked through her to free me from some spiritual things in my life that I did not need to be carrying, for which I am deeply grateful. Quickly we found much in common. We continued to see each other with a mutual friendship quickly developing into a deep and abiding love and respect for each other. With the understanding of how God joins two as one in marriage, we have determined that we would like to spend the rest of our days on earth “no more twain” (Matthew 19:5,6), but walking with Jesus together to fulfill all his assignments for our lives. God favors having a wife, calling it “a good thing” (Proverbs 18:22). The good news is that through faith in God’s word, through the cleansing blood of Jesus and through the power of the Holy Spirit, every person has access to God and his plan for one’s life. God will do a quick work, and a beautiful work, doing abundantly above all we are able to ask or think in fulfilling our hearts desires as we trust him (Ephesians 3:20; Psalms 37:4). He is worthy of all our love, because He loves each one of us and desires only good for us all with all his heart.