“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19: 3-9). By mutual and continued commitment to God and to one another, a man and a woman can be “joined together” by God for a beautiful and lasting relationship in marriage. By the deceitfulness of sin and lack of open communication, walls can be built that will divide a good marriage. When one drops the ball and two become unequally yoked with divorce being the result, what is God’s absolute scriptural plan past divorce?
First, seek Jesus. “Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matthew 6:33). Whatever home we might have in the future, after divorce, it must be built on the Rock if it is to stand when the storms come. According to the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7, in all marriage and man/woman relationships, your first focus is to be on your calling in the Lord – “Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men…let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God” (vs. 23, 24). The call is that we be able to attend to the things of God without distraction (vs. 35). If the unbelieving, the one not relying on the Lord for his or her life, wants to depart from the things and ways of God, they have that choice, let them depart. The believer is not under bondage in such cases (vs. 15), except, that if the believer remarries, it is only to be in the Lord (vs. 36-39). The believing husband and wife are bound by the law unto death. Believing is walking in the light of God, being cleansed from faults through open communication, and coming together in agreement in the things of God to go forward together trusting in the cleansing blood of Jesus and the infilling of the Spirit of God. Where there is no believing, divisions can develop with divorce as a result. The good news is that in Jesus, by keeping one’s focus on him, a beautiful life can be built past divorce with a believing mate who also has their focus on Jesus. There is life past the death of a mate and past divorce. God wants us to have an abundant, fruitful life in every way.